Hey friends!
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Hey friends! I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas. I hope you spent time with family and/or friends.
Just a reminder, we will be having our 7 days of prayer and fasting. Prayer time starts Thursday, January 1st in the Sanctuary and continues each morning through the following Wednesday, January 7th. The fasting part is left up to each individual. Fasting is going without food mainly, and/or going without some other activity that would be considered a sacrifice. It can be a total fast of food, or partial, like going without sweets, or meats, or snacks. The prayer time is usually no more than 45 minutes. Get there when you can and leave when you need to.
- Thursday, January 1st—9:00am
- Friday—7:00am
- Saturday and Sunday —9:00am
- Monday thru Wednesday—7:00am
That reminder is a great segway into today’s topic. The new year is a sign of a new beginning. I know a lot of you set resolutions. Personally, I don’t. I set goals. I know what you’re thinking…what’s the difference? The difference is how my brain works! 🙂 Goals are something I want to achieve and resolutions are disappointments if I don’t achieve them. Again, Jennifer’s brain. If you are like me, you set goals in different parts of your life (spiritually, financially, etc.). This year my goal is God first. So, let’s talk about it.
When it comes to my church family, I have a difficult time saying no. I tend to overthink everything. I think, “I say no to this, then someone else will have to pick up the slack. I’ll just do it.” Or, I feel like if I say no then in my crazy brain that equals, “I am not serving the Lord”. But in reality, I am pushing myself away from Him. Instead of enjoying my time serving, I am sometimes irritated and/or stressed instead of happy. When I become overwhelmed or overextended, I tend to shut down. I don’t have the right attitude and I miss church on Sunday mornings. Which makes me feel EVEN MORE guilty.
Let’s talk about some ways you can put God first this year.
First, read your Bible. I am 45 years old and had never read the Bible all the way though until 2 years ago. I read the Bible but not from cover to cover. Why? Well, frankly, it’s long. And have you ever read Numbers? There are parts that are boring and there are A LOT of parts I don’t understand. But just understand that the boring parts are usually references for other parts of the Bible. As for the parts you don’t understand…listen. If you don’t read it, you 100% won’t understand it. If we all understood it the first time we read it, then we wouldn’t study it, would we?
Second, spend time in prayer. When I wake up in the middle of the night (which is frequently these days), I don’t reach for my phone. I lay there and pray. And I’ll go ahead and tell God, “Hey God. I am going to pray myself asleep so I may not say Amen. But just know I meant it.” I feel like that covers me! But dedicate time for prayer. It’s amazing how blessed you will be through prayer.
Third, be careful what you take in. I have a love/hate relationship with social media. I despise all the negativity it can spread. But on the flip side, look at all the positivity it spreads. At the end of the day, you determine what you read, hear and see. Sure. There are times we see things that we didn’t sign up to see. But that’s where prayer comes into play, right? Your focus needs to stay on God. And if something isn’t pointing to Him, STOP! Stop watching. Stop reading. Stop listening. Just stop.
And lastly, set boundaries. This is where my story comes into play. By setting boundaries, it gives us time to worship and pray. Have you ever been in the middle in prayer and immediately thought of something you need to do? Maybe that’s just me. But you HAVE TO set aside time. It’s ok to tell others about your boundaries. When you tell them, explain why. THis is a perfect opportunity to witness to them.
I told you all of these things like I abide by them. Clearly, I don’t but I want to. I think I used this as a pep talk to myself. 🙂. So, for the month of January, I will be taking a break from Motivational Monday. Not because I don’t love you all, I just want to be properly guided by Him. If there is something I feel passionate to write, then I will. But if I don’t, I want you all to know why. I am trying to realign with Him. And I know you all understand.
Happy New Year and love you all,
Jennifer
Hey friends! Well, this is the week! We are gearing up for the day we have been talking about this whole month. CHRISTMAS!! As a reminder, we will be having our Christmas Eve service at 6pm. If you have never been, please come. It is really beautiful, quiet and just a way to reflect on the reason for the season. I know we are all super busy but if you can, please come. And bring someone with you!
Today is the last day of our Advent series. On Christmas Eve, we will light the Christ candle. Let’s talk about it.
So as you have been following along in our series, all of the outside candles have been lit. As a recap, we have lit the hope, peace, joy and love candle. The last candle not lit is the center candle. This candle is referred to as the Christ candle. The Christ candle is in the center because the Christ candle reminds us that Jesus is the center of Christmas. The four outer candles are all important, but they only make sense with Jesus at the center. Yes, Christmas is a time of hope, peace, joy and love, but once again, this is only because of Jesus.
Without Christ, there is no hope. When we looked at hope in the advent season, we talked about the hope in Christ gets you through the waiting. And we saw that hope in Christ does not disappoint. (Romans 5:5) All real hope in the world is centered on Christ. You see, Christmas is all about hope because it’s all about Christ. God sent his Son into the world so you and I have hope. We have hope today because Christ is with us. We have hope tomorrow because Christ will never leave us. And we have hope for eternity, because Christ is coming back to take us to be with him forever.
Without Christ, there is no peace. Jesus came to save us from our sins so that we could be restored with our relationship with God. When you trust Christ, you enjoy a wonderful peace in your heart, a personal peace that is unlike anything you can find in the world. I know what you are thinking here. Jennifer, I have peace in my heart but what about the world? Our world is severely lacking Jesus. You can’t look at religious or political leaders for peace. You have to seek the Prince of Peace.
Without Christ, there is no joy. Jesus brings the joy of salvation. Joy is sharing good news. Joy leads to praise. This is evident by the shepherds sharing the good news of Jesus’s birth. Joy is so much deeper than happiness. In fact, Christmas time can be an unhappy time for people. But Jesus brings joy to help sustain us when we are feeling every emotion. By having joy, that doesn’t mean you won’t ever be sad or mad. It means in your saddest or maddest hour, God is with you. And because He is with you, you experience true joy.
Without Christ, there is no real love. God showed us an immense amount of love by sending us His only son to sacrifice. The story of Christmas is all about love, because Christmas is all about Jesus. The Bible says: “In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” (1 John 4:9-10). God is love, and all love comes from him. There is no real love without Christ.
A lot of people celebrate Christmas and they are not christian. What they love about it is the lights, the decorations, the gift giving and receiving, and just the overall feeling they have during this time. But you want all those things with the Christ part. Kinda like wanting hope, peace, joy and love. I think most people genuinely do want those things. But Christ is the center, and we only enjoy the good things of Christmas because of him.
I want to wish you and your family a Merry Christmas.
Love you all,
Jennifer
Hey friends! Today I wanted to continue our series on Advent. This past Sunday we lit the Joy candle and next will be Love. In our Motivational Monday’s, we talk about joy and love frequently but how does this play a part in the Christmas season? Well, let’s talk about it.
The third candle to be lit is the joy candle or also known as the “Shepherd’s Candle”. I’ve always been drawn to the shepherds in the Bible (probably because I’m just a regular person). If we look at this from the sheep’s perspective, what do they have that can defend them from predators? These fluffy, white poofs don’t have sharp teeth. They are really sweet and surprisingly intelligent. That’s why they flock together…for survival. But, if something comes after the flock that wants a snack, one of them is not going to win. They honestly depend solely on something or someone to protect them. The shepherd.
The shepherds were just ordinary people like me and you. The night of Jesus’s birth, they were guarding the sheep from predators.
“And in the same region there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear. And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.” And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying,
‘Glory to God in the highest,
and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!’
When the angels went away from them into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let us go over to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has made known to us.” And they went with haste and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby lying in a manger. And when they saw it, they made known the saying that had been told them concerning this child. And all who heard it wondered at what the shepherds told them. But Mary treasured up all these things, pondering them in her heart. And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all they had heard and seen, as it had been told them.” Luke 2:8-20
God chose these ordinary people to share the news of His son’s birth first. Not kings. While the difference is noticeable, it fits well with everything else we’ve seen about Jesus’ birth. Mary and Joseph didn’t stand out from the crowd. Again, they were plain ole people. Bethlehem was a small, unremarkable town. Jesus’ first cradle was a feeding trough. The list goes on.
His birth brought…joy. Of course, it’s a baby! All babies bring joy. This is true but His birth is different. He was bringing us salvation.
And does joy bring? Love.
The fourth (but not last) candle is the Love candle or the “Angel’s Candle”. An angel is a created being and not humans who passed away and became angels (Hebrews 1:14). They are messengers (Messengers: The word “angel” means messenger. They bring God’s words, instructions, and warnings, often appearing as men (Genesis 18, Acts 10), servants (Psalm 148, Isaiah 6, Revelation 4-5), protectors:, as seen with Elisha (2 Kings 6) and Paul (Acts 27), agents of judgment (2 Samuel 24, Acts 12), involved in Jesus’ life, fighters (Daniel 10, Revelation 12), and play eschatological role (Matthew 24, Revelation 16).
With all that scripture (and that’s just a smidgen), I think it’s safe to say, they are pretty important.
God sent His angels four different times to prepare people for Jesus’ arrival. In Luke 1:5-25, the angel Gabriel appeared to Zechariah the priest to tell him that he would have a son (John the Baptist) whom God would use to prepare people for Jesus’ coming. Later, Gabriel came to Mary in Luke 1:26-38 to prepare her to become Jesus’ mother. Shortly thereafter, Joseph received a visit from an angel who told him about Mary’s miraculous pregnancy (Matthew 1:18-25). On the night Jesus was born, a whole company of angels announced His birth to a stunned group of shepherds (Luke 2:8-20).
So the angels brought the message of love…Jesus. The Bible affirms that and that his sending Jesus into the world was an act of perfect love (1 John 4:8-12). Jesus loved people, and yet he didn’t try to always be nice to people. Sometimes, he pushed people to consider what they really believed if they really wanted to follow him (Mark 10:17-27). Sometimes, he got them to admit their mistakes to see how much they needed God (John 4:1-42). Throughout his ministry, he maintained that the key to finding God was not to “follow your heart” but to follow him and obey his teachings.
This week, I want to challenge you to see the story of Jesus’ arrival in a fresh way. Pray that He will show you aspects you haven’t seen before and help you to see the familiar in a fresh light.
By His grace may our joy and love grow as the day we celebrate Jesus’ birth draws near.
Love you all,
Jennifer
Hey friends! Wasn’t the Cantata fantastic? Weren’t able to make it? No big deal! Hop on over to facebook and it was all recorded. Amy, the choir and all of those playing instrument’s…*chef’s kiss*.
Today, I wanted to continue our series on Advent. We have already lit the candle representing hope and peace. We talk about hope and peace a lot in our Motivational Mondays. But today, my focus is hope and peace at Christmas. So, let’s talk about it.
The candle of “Hope” or also referred to as the “Prophet’s Candle”. This candle symbolizes the anticipation of the coming Messiah and the hope that He brings to the world. The Scripture readings and prayers the Hartwigs read focus on the prophecies in the Old Testament about the promised Savior and the expectation of His arrival. Like the prophets in the Old Testament, we hope for a Messiah to save us from the sin in the world (Isaiah 9:6-7). We anticipate our Savior’s arrival. As the “prophecy candle,” this candle assures us we can have hope that God will fulfill the prophecies declared in the Old Testament about Jesus. Hope doesn’t disappoint us (Romans 5:5).
I feel like in this day in age, there are times we all feel the evil around us. I know this is supposed to be motivating and that sounds pretty pessimistic. But, I think what this candle also represents is knowing He is coming back. And when He comes back, we will be in heaven. We won’t endure what this world has coming. We will be chillin’ with the homies.
And what does hope bring? Peace.
Luke 2:14 says, “Peace on earth”. Jesus brought about peace, in the most unexpected ways, when he arrived. The Jews wanted a rebellion. They wanted their Savior to overturn the oppressive rule of the Romans and bring about peace in a violent way. But Jesus had something else in mind. Jesus brings us peace in a number of ways.
- He gives us inner peace. Because of his work on the cross, we have a chance to receive salvation and be indwelled by the Holy Spirit. This grants us an inner peace (John 14:27).
- We have peace with others. We put aside our differences (Galatians 3:28), especially with other believers, because we belong to the same family. We have the same purpose: to let others know about the peace of Christ.
Peace from God, biblical peace, allows us to trust in God’s promises (Proverbs 3:5), through restful, tranquil faith, despite the dark, scary world around us.
This week, I want to challenge you to reflect on the hope and peace we have been given because of the birth of Jesus. I think it is so important that we stop and reflect on the reason for the season. I know we hear that statement frequently but I think it’s easy to get caught up in decorations, food and gifts. Christmas really is a beautiful time of the year. While you are in the store shopping for a loved one or just buying groceries, use this time to talk to the cashier about their plans for Christmas. Listen to them and try to weave the true meaning of Christmas into the conversation. You never know if you are the reason they get to know Jesus.
Love you all and see you next week,
Jennifer
Hey friends! I hope you had a GREAT Thanksgiving. I want to report that I NOW have up all my inside Christmas decorations. I just need to work on the outside but I’ll get to it. This season, I wanted to dive deep into the advent season. Do you know why we light candles? Where did this all start? What do these candles mean? Well, let’s talk about it.
I grew up in a christian, PCA Presbyterian household. During the advent season, a family would go to the front of the church, read some verses and an explanation of the verses and they would sit down. The verses and the explanation told you what the candles represent but why do we do this? Was this in the Bible?
To answer it plainly, it is not in the Bible and when it started, is unknown. This appears to be a symbolic and purposeful practice the church started to represent the birth of Jesus. I would equate this idea to Lent. Meaning, there is nothing in the Bible but it is based on Biblical principles and events with it starting 40 days before Easter. Personally, I love honoring the Lord with these practices because it helps me to remember the reason behind the season.
Thanks to my google research, the word Adevent comes from the Latin word adventus. Adventus means “coming” ot “arrival”. It appears Advent celebrations started as early as 380 AD. But the first Advent candles and wreaths were used in Germany in 1839. The idea started spreading to other churches (probably because it was a cool idea!) and they adopted it into practice. The wreath is an Evergreen. If you think about what is alive and green in the dead of winter would be an Evergreen. This represents that God is eternal, and in Him, we too have everlasting life. Being a wreath, there is no beginning and no end. Representing that God always has been and will always be.
There are five candles. Our church will light a candle every Sunday leading up to Christmas with the fifth candle being lit on Christmas Eve. The candles represent hope, peace, joy and love. The fifth candle is Christ candle. The candles are symbolic and encourage us to remember the first coming of Christ and to look forward to His Second Coming.
Each week as the candles are lit, the flame points to Jesus being the Light of the World. His first coming shines in the darkness, lighting the path to a relationship with God with God the Father, It illuminates His plan and purpose through the Holy Spirit. Now, we wait for His Second Coming where he will light the world with His glory (Revelations 22:5). John 1:4-5 says, “In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”
This is what the Advent season is all about. Celebrating the light in the darkness.
What a beautiful representation and visual reminder why we celebrate this season.
I am just a simple girl from Alabama who doesn’t like to sound uneducated. But, I don’t think I really understood the beauty of the candles and wreath. The light from the candle. The warmth. So before I dove into the meaning of each candle, I thought it was important to discuss the why behind the process.
This week, I want you to reflect on the light and warmth from Jesus. How has He been your light in the darkness? How can you spread that light to others?
Love you all and see you next week,
Jennifer
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Hey friends! Guess what??!! It’s almost TURKEY DAY!!! WOOHOO!!! Listen y’all. I love food. I do. And I especially love my momma’s food. <Insert happy dance now> I love spending time with family, talking and eating. Literally, fat and happy. Anyway, enough about food. Let’s finish our Thanks and Giving series. Have you ever wondered why the holiday is called Thanksgiving? Who came up with that? And how does this pertain to our journey as a christian? Let’s talk about it.
I did a quick internet search about Thanksgiving. Of course, we know about pilgrims, native americans and the Mayflower. But why were the words thanks and giving put together to form a holiday? The words represent a single concept of a time to both express gratitude and to generously share with others. This compound term is rooted in both religious and secular traditions of giving thanks for blessings and then acting on that gratitude by giving back to the community. The practice originated from religious “thanksgiving” days, and has evolved to include the secular aspect of generosity and sharing. Together, “Thanks and Giving” creates a dual concept where gratitude for one’s own good fortune inspires one to be generous toward others. It reflects the cycle of gratitude prompting generosity, which in turn inspires more gratitude.
But you see, gratitude doesn’t just come when we receive something. Generosity also inspires thankfulness in the one who gives. That gratitude gets translated into more generosity. It’s cyclical and addictive. This is how I feel with gift giving! I LOVE giving gifts more than I like receiving them. Don’t get me wrong, I love to receive a gift because I understand the thoughtfulness behind it. But giving is something I really enjoy.
If we look at what we have as something we’ve earned, we hold on to it tightly. If we recognize God gave us the ability to make money, it’s natural to see ourselves as stewards of what he has entrusted us. One of the keys to thankfulness and generosity is seeing that everything belongs to God. Mark 10:17-22, Mark describes a wealthy young man who asks Jesus how to gain eternal life. Jesus responds that he must follow the commandments, but when the man claims to have done so, Jesus tells him to sell everything he owns, give to the poor, and follow him. Because this man held on tightly to his possessions, he walked away. He couldn’t obey.
We’re told by our consumer culture that we’ll be happier the more stuff we have (probably because they want to sell more stuff!). Jesus calls us out of that culture and to generously give what we have. What we don’t see is that when we trust him in this, he blesses us. We’re not called to suffer through giving to others; it’s just that we won’t see the blessing in it until we learn to be obedient. I can name many times where Jon and I were not sure how things were going to work out. All we could do was pray. We never went hungry. We were never homeless. All our needs were met.
Some of the most generous people I have met in my lifetime are usually not the wealthiest. And what I mean by that is you don’t have to have money or use money to be generous. When we are abundant in our generosity, thankfulness is the natural response. We can’t fully understand this truth though until we regularly practice generosity. Look at God. You can see this in creation and in how he blesses people who follow him and those who don’t. God doesn’t bless us because we deserve what he gives. God gives us abundantly because it’s his nature to be generous. Anytime we realize how good God has been to us, it becomes obvious that we should act generously with others because we’re thankful for what God did with us.
This week as you are sitting at your Thanksgiving table, remember thanks and giving. This isn’t just a holiday where we eat. This is a time to reflect. And we reflect right before we celebrate Jesus’s birth. Pretty sure that was no accident (God is always intentional).
As I have said in the past, I am so thankful for all of you. You inspire me and hold me accountable to be a better person everyday. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday and don’t eat too many deviled eggs!
Love you all,
Jennifer
Hey friends! Today, I want to continue our Thanks and Giving series as we are quickly approaching the holiday. Do you have expectations? Of course you do! We all do. What happens when your expectations don’t go as planned? I would expect you to feel defeated and frustrated with a possible side of disillusionment. When this happens, what sort of weapons do you use against your discouragement? Did you know God gives us weapons? Let’s talk about it.
Many years ago when Jon and I got married, we bought a townhome. We were only supposed to live in this townhome for 5ish years and then we wanted a “freestanding” home. Well, we were in debt. Then, I got pregnant. We went bankrupt. Then, the market crashed. Our 5ish years turned into 11. We were very thankful to have a roof over our heads but we felt like we weren’t doing Logan justice by not having a yard and we just felt like a disappointment. At the 11 year mark, we decided to go for it and sell the townhome and buy another home.
Well…we listed our townhome and it went under contract quickly! So quickly, we have to hurry to find another house to move to! GREAT!! We found a home we loved that was in our price range and we were good to go. We paid for inspections (septic tank, house AND for snakes-a story for later), put a deposit down to have a fence installed the day after closing, and booked movers. Financially, we were tapped out but hey! We are moving and making a small profit on the townhome so we should be ok.
36 hours before closing and while we were doing our final walkthrough, we learned the buyers of our home no longer had financing. Y’all. I.was.devastated. Everything was packed. We were going out to eat at this point because the kitchen was packed. We had thrown every dollar we had to move and then BAM! All was gone. I cried. I knew we didn’t have enough money in reserve to do this again so we were stuck in the townhome until we could save enough again. All I could do was pray.
The house we were buying was a flip. The man that currently owed the home was a contractor. He just wanted to sell this house. When we backed out (36 hours before closing) he asked what the issue was. Everything was explained to him. He offered to buy the townhome for what we owed on it. This was great…and stressful. The money that we thought we would recover would be gone. But I felt like this was God’s way of giving us an opportunity to move. Who has this type of opportunity given to them?? Well, we took him up on the offer. We got the house. He resold the townhome 13 days later making more profit than we would have made. But what a roller coaster of emotions, right?
In Ephesians 5, God points to a reality that we don’t like to admit but we know to be true and that’s “the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:16). Because of the brokenness, we have to make the best use of our time. Paul tells us this for two reasons. First, the days are evil because we are tricked into thinking we have more time and opportunities than we really have. Second, the days we live in introduce evils in our lives. So what are we supposed to do?
Don’t get drunk on wine and be filled by the spirit. I know what you are thinking? Jennifer, I am not a drinker so check for me! Let me explain this one. Alcohol is a numbing agent. It helps us to not feel. But many things can be a numbing agent. Just because you don’t consume that doesn’t mean you are free. Don’t ignore the difficulties in your life by burying yourself in sinful behavior. You might think this will help you avoid pain, but speaking from experience, you are just postponing it. Instead, be filled with the spirit, and you will be equipped to deal with it instead of avoiding it.
Address one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs. Jennifer, I’m not a singer. Guess what? Neither am I!! But the key takeaway of this verse is “addressing one another”. Paul wasn’t just telling us something that was for our own good. Paul is addressing the church and wants them to accept their responsibility for one another. He tells them to remind each other of God’s goodness through: Psalms- scriptures of praise, Hymns- songs of praise written by the church, and Spiritual songs- impromptu responses of praise. God knows you can’t sing! It’s ok!
Piggy backing off the last point, He wants us to sing and make melody to the Lord. Not only does he want us to encourage each other with praise but to make worship a regular part of our lives. Music inspires us and changes us. It’s hard for the devil to get a hold of us when we are making it a habit to worship Him.
Give thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Paul tells the church of Ephesus to give thanks always and for everything. When we respond with gratitude, we see things differently.
Lastly, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. The bible says mutual submission helps us walk wisely. When we attend worship regularly, we develop friendships with like minded people. They are there to help you in your walk with the Lord. So, you should respectfully and willingly submit to their help and recommendations when you need it! They want to succeed!
Look, disappointments will happen. I don’t care if you are 7 or 77. As long as you are alive on this Earth, you will have disappointments. But God, right? Thankfully, He has our back and He wants to seek him. In my situation, it all worked out like I wanted. But what if it didn’t? What if we had to stay in the townhome longer and we had to let this house go? I would have always wondered what was He was saving us from…
Love you all and see you next week,
Jennifer
Hey friends! Ummm, where did Fall go? I hear it will be back by the end of the week but IT’S COLD!! Today, I want to continue our Thanks and Giving Series. In the past week, how many times has something bothered you? Did you complain about it? Have you ever met someone who is just negative about everything? I mean, look at me! I just complained about the weather! Well, let’s talk about it.
Years ago, I had a Mustang GT Convertible. I LOVED that car. It was so much fun and it would FLY. It was black with red leather seats. Seriously, gorgeous car. One morning, Logan had a soccer game. I got to the field toting my coffee and chair preparing myself to be cold. Another parent started talking to me about my car. I started griping that my wrist was hurting because the cup holders were at an awkward angle. Y’all. I didn’t realize how ridiculous that sounded until they just started laughing. I was very confused and didn’t know why they were laughing. THIS WAS NO LAUGHING MATTER!!! I NEED COFFEE AND IT WAS HURTING MY WRIST TO PICK IT UP AT THAT ANGLE! 🤦🏻 The couple simply said, “Jennifer. First world problems…”
I felt so stupid at that moment. I was so caught up in myself that I was complaining about the most trivial thing. I was so caught up in myself that I didn’t even realize how ridiculous that entire conversation was until they spelled it out. Why was I complaining about the extras in my life? The extras that at one time in my life, I thought I wouldn’t get?! As silly as it is, that was a turning point for me. I knew I needed to be more like Paul.
One of things I started doing was keeping a Grateful Journal. This was just a notebook. Nothing fancy. I started every entry with, “Today I am grateful for…” Sometimes, it was silly. “Today, I am grateful for spoons because how else would I eat soup?” Other days, it was deeper that ended in a story from that day. This journal helped to reflect on my day and focus on the positive and not the negatives. Like everyone, every day is not a good day. If for some reason I was especially down, I would open my journal and read it. The entries were MY specific joys that occurred in MY life. My joy and blessings that God gave me.
Another thing I stopped doing was use less negative language. Remember my Mustang story above? I said, “I felt so stupid at that moment.” And I did. That was a very accurate statement. At that point in my life, I felt stupid. Literally, uneducated and not smart. I was stumbling through life trying to not be a bad mom and a decent wife. I didn’t see anything wrong with that negative language because that’s how I felt. I decided I had to change my wording. Instead of thinking or talking like I was a bad mom, I would focus on what an awesome kid Logan was. His successes and attitude. Do you see how I shifted that mindset? Logan is a gift from God. Jon was an answer to my prayers. Once I started using positive words, it became easier to see the good. Why couldn’t I see that sooner?
Lastly, stop worrying. During the time of my story, I was a worry wort. Seriously. I worried about the things that could happen that NEVER actually happened. I worried so much that I developed anxiety attacks. At one point, I thought I was having a heart attack (seriously!). People would tell me, “Trust God.” I would have responded, “I do but…” There is no but when you talk about God. I am not going to lie and tell you that I am free of worry. But what I can tell you is my anxiety level is minimal compared to where I was at that time. What I didn’t realize (until I truly trusted God) was how worry distracted me from focusing on the good. When you focus on the good, it is just naturally easier to be grateful.
I would love to be like Paul all around. Paul didn’t grumble or complain. He spoke of struggles. And listen, if anyone has reason to complain, it was Paul. He endured a lot of suffering. But he used that suffering as opportunities to learn and grow. There were times Paul felt inadequate, unsuccessful and rejected but he never used these to complain about God.
This week, I want to encourage you to identify what is your struggle with staying focused on being thankful. Are you a worrier? Do you use negative language to describe situations? Do you make “mountains out of mole hills”? Once you identify your biggest struggle, tweak how you handle those situations. Pray about it. Seek encouragement from the Lord. He is your biggest cheerleader.
Love you all,
Jennifer
